Your anger points to your power. Listen to yourself.

I found myself filled with rage, doing something that I was totally into just months earlier. Over the past three months the cracks in its appeal were being revealed – and the longer that I denied it, the more frustrated, irritated, agitated and then finally enraged I became. 

God was trying to say “You are through here.” My skin was crawling and my soul was screaming for space and I didn’t know why.

One night I ran out of the situation to my car. I took a deep breath of relief – “ah, space, me, truth” I thought. Alone in the car that night I realized with utter confusion: “Wow, I really don’t want to be there anymore.” 

After all I’d invested I needed to acknowledge that I’d gotten all that I was meant to get there, and it was time to move on.

Looking back now it is clear that I had resisted the very voice that was trying to guide me to new, brighter shores. My anger was at myself for not listening — for repeatedly denying what was obvious.

Anger can be an entry point to discovering legitimate needs and deeper truths that can take your life in a better direction.

But then we have to have the courage to face that insight. What would this mean about my next steps? What would need to change, how disruptive will it be and how do I know things will work out?

One reason we avoid anger is the implications it has for our lives once we are honest with ourselves.

We have been conditioned to fear, hide, and invalidate our anger. Yet, when we repress it, or sidestep it, we will have no idea what it is trying to show us.

It can show us where we are not caring for ourselves or are way out of alignment with our personal values. 

Why did it have to get that far and who was I so angry with? It went that far because I wasn’t paying attention. I wasn’t listening to the small voice, then the moderate voice, and finally the big voice!

A part of me was infuriated with myself for overriding an obvious truth day after day. But once I listened to its message, gave myself permission to know it, and acted on it, it opened a flood gate of power within me. Suddenly I had the courage to show up more authentically in other areas of my life as well.

Saying no to that situation was saying yes to myself. 

Sometimes it's just about speaking up, setting new boundaries or simply taking the time to find out what you really want and need in a situation so you can share it with someone.

My heart was trying to get my attention. But because my mind couldn’t figure it out, it had to use anger. Are there ways you are also negating anger because it doesn’t make sense or is an inconvenient truth?

Our souls are wise, and loving, and can see things we can’t see.

Facts About Anger

• If your anger is here, it belongs here.

• Your anger points you to some truth in your life – often one that you haven’t been willing to face.

• Owning your anger is a step toward more personal power, clarity and confidence.

• Anger demands our attention, because wherever it points us, it illuminates us.

• Your anger is meant to help you see something that you haven’t seen. It’s not for blaming or projecting onto others. It’s for you to adopt personal agency.

• Sometimes anger is just a quick message about setting a boundary.

• Your anger is your friend.
  

  When you side-step your anger, you side-step some aspect of your truth which is a portal to your personal power.
  

  Without our inner truth we are striving for the outer things of life to make us happy, and they never will.
  

  Is all anger a portal to power? NO. Just like anything in this world, anger can be abused — in this case for self-aggrandizing, self-justifying, and blaming others. That is not the power I’m referring to. Not power over, but innate, God-given power to have agency in your life.

  If you don’t acknowledge your anger, you can never feel it. If you don’t feel it, you can never gain the insight it’s trying to bring you, and the gifts that only knowing yourself better offers you.

  In my case, listening to my anger’s message opened up a whole different path that has me feeling excited, motivated and peaceful. My energy is more real, and I’m calm and confident as I fearlessly follow my next truest step. 

  How is anger speaking to you in your own life? Does it have a message of self-care or an invitation to look deeper within yourself about a situation?

  Perhaps there's a part of your life asking to be heard.

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